We all want to become better.
Sometimes it’s frustrating when you strive to become better in one area of your life, but the other areas suffer.
For example, when you want to become a better writer, you spend more time writing and blogging. Sadly, sometimes this means lesser quality time with your family.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
I want to become a better mom writer. And I know you do, too.
Being a better writer doesn’t mean you’ll become a lousy mom.
Here are four practical ways we can be better writers while being better moms.
1. Spend less time on the phone
I previously admitted that I’m addicted to my phone. I’m not proud of it. But it’s the truth.
And I consciously make efforts to reverse that. I’m patting myself on the back because now that I’ve deleted the Facebook app on my phone, I don’t find myself mindlessly scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed. Now I only check my Facebook profile on my PC once every couple of days just to quickly browse the notifications and then log out again.
Since I’ve done this, I noticed I have more time to read on my Kindle. I was able to read two books in a week of not using Facebook. That’s a big feat considering I couldn’t even finish one book for months now.
Don’t grab the phone the moment I wake up
This is a nasty habit I want to break. I use my phone as a clock so I have it close with me when I sleep. And when I wake up, I get into the habit of scrolling through emails.
One way I’m breaking away from this habit is having an actual clock so that I can turn off my phone when I sleep. So that when I wake up, the phone isn’t there for me to grab.
Play more with my little one rather than letting him play alone while I play Bubble Witch
I’m grateful that Sam can play alone most of the time. This allows me to work on my computer since I work from home. But lately, he’s been wanting me to play with him. Maybe because he’s growing up and he’s at that stage where he yearns for interaction especially from me.
So instead of letting him just play alone while I play games on my phone, I’m making an effort to play with him.
The good thing about this is, when he gets tired after playing, he sleeps better. That means more time for me to write! (In fact, I’m writing this while he is sleeping.)
2. Schedule a writing time and write every day
I don’t write regularly and that’s a sad thing. I have tons of story and blog post ideas but they always get pushed to the back burner all because I don’t have a scheduled writing time.
A scheduled writing time means you’re giving your writing a priority. That’s exactly what I want to do.
I want to be more deliberate in my writing rather than just wait for when inspiration strikes. Whether that may be blog or story writing, I want to make it a habit.
So I decided to schedule a writing time where I can focus solely on writing. Sam usually wakes up at six in the morning so I’m scheduling writing time at five a.m.
I’m cringing just by thinking about it. But I used to wake up at that same time when I used to work in a bank. If I could do it then, I certainly can do it now. Especially when I know waking up this early means reaching my writing goals.
3. Focus and stick with your goals
What are your writing goals?
Do you want to write and publish a novel?
Perhaps you want to finish the book you’ve started writing. Or maybe want to start a blog.
Whatever your writing goals are, I know you can accomplish them if you focus on working towards them.
I mentioned before that I got distracted by a lot of things in the past. And I’ve learned many lessons along the way. At least now I know better.
Now I’m clear with my goals (I’m sharing them below) and sticking with them.
Goal #1: Write two novels in a year
There are still have 6 months left for 2018 so I want to write and finish my first novel this year.
Goal #2: Update this blog weekly
This is where I share the mistakes I made so you don’t repeat them, and where I share the lessons I learned so you can learn from them.
This blog also keeps me accountable for writing my novel since I’m writing a monthly novel update. Read the first update here.
Being a mom isn’t easy. Motherhood is a lot of work! And writing ain’t no walk in the park.
So in between changing diapers, running never-ending errands, and writing, don’t forget to breathe.
Give yourself “me” time. Your mom and writer self will thank you for it.
You will stumble once in a while and that’s okay.
Being a better mom writer doesn’t mean you have it all figured out and that you’re perfect. You’re not. I know I’m not.
I have a lot to learn about being a mom or being a writer.
Take it one day at a time.
You will arrive at your destination. Hustle with your writing, yes. But also take your time. This is a journey. The little ones grow up fast.