Ah, so you wanna write. But with all the mommy duties and work tasks, how the hell are you going to find time to write?
Before I tell you how, first, let me tell you a story.
A few days ago, I asked a friend of mine, “If money were not an issue, what career would you like to have?”
Our conversation went to the topic of pursuing one’s dream. And then she asked me, what career I would like to pursue.
I told her I still want to be a writer.
Her simple answer is, “Then go ahead and write that story.”
Yep, it’s as simple as that.
If you want to become a writer, write.
But, you’re busy. I get it.
I work at home and I have a one-year-old kid. So I understand how it feels like to be stressed from work while babysitting a baby.
Not to mention writing isn’t easy, to begin with. And then you put a baby into the mix. Ha!
But being a mother shouldn’t stop us from writing. And just because you want to be a writer, doesn’t mean you’ll neglect your mom roles.
You can do both, with a little time management.
Here are helpful tips on how you can find the time to write. So that you’ll no longer tell yourself, “I don’t have time to write.”
1. Track your daily activities for a week
Peter Ducker said, “You can’t manage what you can’t measure.”
This means that to improve something, first you must know where you stand.
So if you want time to write, first know where you spend your time.
Write down your daily schedule and take note of the actual hours and total hours you do your work. This may vary especially if you’re a mom.
But as you know, kids and babies tend to ruin your schedule – and their good at it! But even so, continue tracking your daily activities so you get an idea what time you usually get more things done. So you can do more of your tasks in these times.
By reviewing your weekly schedule, you’ll get a feel for how you spend your days. This way you can assess which tasks you need to do in the mornings or evenings, and what times can you sit down and write.
For me, I usually write at night after I put the baby to sleep and done with my mommy tasks.
2. Take advantage of nap times
Babies and toddlers usually tend to sleep at least 4 hours in their nap time. This means you can get things done and write during their nap time.
I’m not saying you skip your own nap time. I found the solution to minor headaches is a power nap, so go ahead and take yours. When you wake up, you’re refreshed and ready to tackle your tasks.
3. Always have a phone or pen and paper handy so that you can write down an idea immediately
I always have my phone so that I can write ideas in my note-taking app.
I am guilty of not writing down ideas and this is what I’m trying to improve on.
But don’t write when you’re driving, please. Pull over where it’s safe to do so, and then write.
4. Don’t underestimate a five-minute writing time
Don’t put off writing just because you only have a few minutes. Write during these times and you’ll be amazed how much words you can write.
I know most writers prefer to write in an hour than only five minutes but if you’re a mom, we must learn to grab these small opportunities. Every five minutes here and there all add up!
5. Use the power of your subconscious mind when doing chores
KM Weiland talked about this in her book Conquering Writer’s Block and Summoning Inspiration: Learn to Nurture a Lifestyle of Creativity.
While doing the dishes, you can imagine the stories you want to write and play the scenes in your head. Or the article or blog posts you want to write.
Have an idea simmering in your head when your hands are full. This way your subconscious is saving story details for you. When it’s time to write, or when you suddenly have five minutes like I mentioned above, you have a lot of ideas you wish you can type faster.
6. Take advantage of waiting times
Daily commute, waiting in line or waiting in banks, these are precious writing times.
I mostly transact using my bank’s mobile app these days. But on rare days that I need to go to a bank, I make sure I’m productive by writing or reading. (Unless the baby is with me.) This is why number five above is important because when you are forced to wait, you’re ready to write.
7. Know what you want to write
Create an outline. It’s easy to be overwhelmed with the details. Even if it’s just a rough outline, at least have something to work on to guide you.
Having an outline will help you stay on point.
8. Don’t stress yourself out for missed writing days
Just get back to where you left off without judging yourself.
You’re a busy, work at home mom. You’re stressed and tired as it is. Don’t add more stress by guilt tripping yourself too much. If you do, the more you won’t get anything written because now you’re frustrated and probably doubting yourself if you’re even cut out for this.
Stop. Be kind to your writer self.
Now, go and get to writing, mama!
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