“Know your BIG why.”
I used to think that having big why’s are enough to motivate someone to work towards their goals. And if they aren’t motivated enough to work, it means their why’s are not big enough. Or maybe they’re just lazy.
It was the only logical reason, right?
I was in that situation, too. Big dreams. Noble reasons why I want to achieve them. But I wasn’t moving towards reaching them. So maybe my why’s were not big enough? Or maybe I was lazy?
I was wrong.
Because my why’s are dear to my heart. How can they not be big enough? And I refuse to believe that I’m lazy! There are lazy days, sure. But there must be a deeper reason behind them.
But for many years I was stuck.
Why am I not getting to the next level of success? Sure, I’ve had my fair share of small successes over the years. I’ve managed to pay off my debts. I now work at home and spend more time with family. I earn enough decent living.
But I wanted to do more, be more.
I dreamed of writing and publishing books.
Books that make an impact and help other people. I want to inspire my future kids that they can be whoever they want to be.
But I wasn’t doing it.
Is my why, not big enough?
Beyond Your Big Why
They say your why’s must be big enough to wake you up each day and work hard.
But I realized over the past year that it doesn’t end there.
Yes, you must have big why’s. But the why’s are only there as your inspiration and motivation. The hard work must come from you. The desire to even lift a finger and work towards your dreams depends on your attitude.
You must be discontented.
Discontented with where you are right now that you push yourself to move forward and just do it already.
Discontented with the status quo that you tell yourself, “Enough! I’ve had enough, I want change!”
You must not be complacent.
You see, most people tell me I’m lucky to be able to work at home. They tell me they want to do what I do – earn a living while working at home. I tell them they can do it, too! But they’re not doing it.
It’s not like they’re why’s are not big enough. Nor their dreams aren’t big enough.
The problem is they’ve become complacent.
When you’re complacent, no matter how big your why is, you won’t go after your dreams.
A lot of people have big why’s for their audacious dreams. But not most of them are working towards those dreams. Their dreams remain as dreams because as much as their why’s are near and dear to their hearts, they hadn’t been able to reject complacency. They’re not discontented enough to want change.
They’re still at the stage where they’re still willing to accept and live by the status quo.
They haven’t had enough, yet.
Be Uncomfortable and Discontented
If you’re uncomfortable and discontented enough with your situation, you must want change.
And change is painful. Only the ones who are willing to bear the pain and hard work will have the guts to roll up their sleeves and get to work.
Because chasing dreams is not a walk in the park.
A complacent person won’t go the extra mile.
So, ask yourself. Are you discontented yet? Or you being complacent?
Dream big. But also, be discontented.
Yes, I’m finally publishing my book in the next few days. 🙂