Imagine you’re hungry.
There’s a new restaurant in town and their roast beef ads are making you want to try them. Just thinking about the tenderness of the meat makes your mouth water. And even hungrier.
So you decide to go and check out the said restaurant.
On the way there, there’s a burger joint. Looks delish, you tell yourself. The restaurant is still a bit far. And you’re hungry.
You decide to buy one burger to pacify your angry stomach.
And then add some milkshake. And french fries. You’re still thinking about the roast beef though.
A few minutes of driving and you finally arrive at the restaurant. But there’s a problem.
You’re no longer hungry.
You still want to try the beef, but you decide to take it in another day because you’re already full.
You’re not hungry anymore.
Did this same kind of thing already happened to you?
You had a goal in mind but on the journey to your goal you got sidetracked, you nearly forgot about your end goal.
There are two things detours will make you realize.
1. Detours can take you to places you’ve never been to. And make you realize it’s actually the place you’d like to end up in.
But on the other hand…
2. Detours can also lead you to places where you’re entertained and will keep you busy. But you’ll soon realize you still want to reach your original destination.
What reaching your goal looks like
You set a goal and try to reach it. Nice plan.
But then you end up with rocky roads and difficult paths. Not the nicest thing.
For example, my goal was to become a fiction author.
I wanted to write a novel and tell a story.
My work as a VA exposed me to online marketing. I figured, maybe I should learn online marketing more to attract readers to my fiction.
Maybe I should learn about email marketing, blogging, and all other whatnots.
I would need to hire editors for my book. So I thought maybe I should get more freelancing clients so that I can earn more money and save for editing while I’m writing my book.
Not a bad idea.
But as I earned some $$$, I got sidetracked about learning more about this and that. My dream to write a novel got push to the back burner.
I got busy with blogging to build an audience, not for my fiction but with the hopes to build an online following.
I got sidetracked following other people’s goals, forgetting about mine.
Five years after I set the goal of writing my novel, I still have no novel to show for it.
It’s frustrating and something I regret.
If only I focused more on writing rather than the shiny objects I’ve seen on the way.
Don’t get me wrong.
I’m grateful for my journey as a freelance writer and virtual assistant. I’ve worked with clients on article pieces and ebooks. And I’ve also written mine.
But then again, still no novel.
But sulking and regretting all day will get me nowhere, will it?
I have nobody to blame but myself.
But blaming myself forever won’t get me near my goal.
But I’m still hungry
This is the big difference between me and the roast beef restaurant story I told you about.
I’m still hungry for my dream, and even hungrier. And this is another thing to be grateful for.
At least I still know what I want.
At least I can still find a way to get back on track.
At least I’m still hungry. I can still continue moving and working towards my book that’s been long overdue.
I know it’s hard. But quitting is harder.
Getting back on track
Blogging (like what I’m doing now) can get me sidetracked like before. But I’m approaching blogging now differently than how I approached it before.
I wanted to blog before to attract an audience and clients. Now, I’m blogging to keep myself accountable for writing my novel.
Sure, I still need to work as a writer and VA. I have bills to pay anyway. But I’m taking a conscious effort of writing my novel every day. So that I don’t lose my focus on my end goal.
Over to you
We dare to dream. And gather enough courage to pursue it. That alone is a great thing.
Sometimes that dream is starting a business, pursuing a passion, like writing a book. We might get distracted along the way.
We can’t help it. We live in a complicated world. But what’s important is being true to yourself and knowing what you really, really want. And not losing sight of that. And if you do, don’t give up. Get back up and start again.
If you ever realized you’ve become further away to your destination, at least now you have new skills and passion to drive you to your dream. It’s not yet too late.
You’re smarter and more equipped now more than ever.
That dream is still yours for the taking.